I am often asked what my work is based on.  For most of my career I have been studying behavioral patterns in consumers and what motivates people into action. I am influenced by gestalt therapy, imago therapy, resonance repatterning and my personal experiences with God and spirit.

I believe there are four important ingredients required in creating the life you want and love:

An Appreciation for Choice (free will) – An understanding of your “role in it” and the willingness to look at that. To be able to assess the choices you make and the consequences.  To be accountable for the choices that are not creating desired outcomes with forgiveness for self as needed.  Asking yourself, is this working or do I need to choose something else?

A Practice of Curiosity – Every day is a new day to learn and do something new. How many questions are you asking yourself in day? What are you learning from others? How curious are you being with others? It may only take one conversation to inspire movement where there has been none in a long time. An openness to new ideas and new experiences creates momentum towards the life you want as you experience more certainty around what works and doesn’t work for you.

A Willingness to Experience Shared Vulnerability – There is nothing more powerful than going through something new that you can learn from with another person. The more willing we are to be vulnerability with each, the easier it becomes to handle things that that are not favorable.  Through shared vulnerability we develop our sense of belonging which is essential to our wellbeing and work.

The Ability to Stay Open to Grace –  Believing there is supportive, inspirational, spiritual energy available to you.  Ask for it in whatever ways feels comfortable to you. Say a prayer, scream it out, write down what you are need and are asking for. Religion is not a requirement to experience grace.  (more thoughts on how to experience grace)

I believe practicing these four things is how we stay “relationally” nourished. See list of top 40 relating exercises featured on.

 Having it all figured out is a myth. Life is beautiful because of discoveries.  Continuous self-discoveries and relational discoveries are the foundation of all meaningful experiences.  Let’s keep going together.